Monthly Archives: May 2017

In Love, with myself.

It is a fact that I love myself, I don’t​ mean it in a selfish sense, maybe naive, but trust me I have realized it sometime​ back. I am in a relationship with myself. Seems absurd right? Well, it is absurd, but then every other relationship is. I don’t think most will agree with this fact, so then let’s just create a perspective.

To love yourself, you should know what love is; now this is where the hard part starts. To know what love is you need to love another person, some unknown person whom you haven’t known all your life. You have to be in love, as  in truly madly deeply or some other pathetically romantic stuff. So are we in deep, true n crazy love? Very good. Now we’re ready for the ride. 

The lesson starts with a break up. I leave it to your wisdom how you do it, but you need to have a broken heart, if there is something like that. Now you spend few days in grief, you​ may feel that I’ve had enough. Curiously, this is the time people are interested in you, but you don’t give a dime. 

After a while when you gather some courage to face this love again, you’ll try your best but it may so happen that you aren’t really ready for a relationship again, probably worse if you’re crush isn’t interested. In either case you may have a second heart break. This time is pretty critical, you can either lose hope or go to the next level. Now you tend to feel desperate because it’s been a while now. This desperation turns into frustration. That’s short lived because you are about to enter a phase of self realisation. Now you might start to think that I was better off alone. And trust me you really are better off.. 

If that makes some sense then it’s easier to comprehend this perspective. It might seem all wrong, but there is so much room for yourself. You can actually introspect every move. You can never feel closer to yourself in any other way. The best part is you start talking to yourself, understand why you feel something, reason your behavior and others better. If there is something called the “inner peace” it’s very much achievable, that is a mighty good reason to love loving yourself.

Evolution, need of the hour.

I am not planning to dwell on the meaning of evolution, but it’s a change for good. I feel there is great need for us to evolve psychologically and socially. This blog is dedicated especially to the girl I don’t know, and all the others I do.

 I still don’t understand why it is the ultimate climax of most of the situations​ involving a man and a woman. At some point of time either of them feel it that way, however short the interaction is. It has become our nature to think that way and the prevailing circumstances tend us to do so. But, the question is, is that right..? 

This question lingers​ in my mind from time to time, but this time it just triggered me to think. I was alone in a share rickshaw waiting for other fellow travelers. Now there comes a good looking girl who sits beside me, she’s​ probably going home after work. Then comes a big man n he sits beside me too. It all starts now, the awkwardness sets in; It’s quite difficult to give them space you​ know.
Well the point is, the lady was feeling uncomfortable with two unknown men sitting next to her. Not that I was rejoicing her company, that thought made me uncomfortable, rather disturbed. Her body language said it all; the way she clenched the rod, her fruitless efforts to shrink n occupy lesser space, or the way she fidgitted with her cellphone​ checking it twice a minute. I developed a sudden urge to tell her​, “lady, please relax, it’s fine“, but I didn’t, I couldn’t.  The ride lasted for around 20 mins and 19 minutes I just held myself not to say anything n just sat tight. 

What troubled me was the thought of insecurity in her mind, and the lack of assurance from my side. That’s the reason, I believe we need to evolve and evolve soon. Both the genders have to think alike, respect and have trust. There has to be a sense in men so that the women around them don’t feel intimidated and women, the belief that every other guy is not planning to act funny (most of the times people do).

To sum up, I think there has to be a radical change in people, of both genders, which will let everybody live in a rational and civilised society. The next time I share a seat with a woman, I don’t want to feel the same, rather I’d like to wish her n ask how was her day, if that’s not too much. It’s not impossible, but will need contribution from every soul who shares my concern and everyone whose answer is a yes. Do you want this to be a better place..?